There are many reasons people choose to pursue a divorce, but none of them can impact your emotions and mental state like infidelity. When you learn that your partner has been unfaithful to your marriage, it can cause you to spiral and question every moment of your marriage. It can totally break your heart. Coming back from infidelity can be painful, but moving forward with your divorce may be what you need. A Kansas City divorce lawyer can help you make a plan.

There’s nothing wrong with feeling betrayed, angry, and even somewhat vengeful after discovering your partner’s infidelity. You may want to do whatever you can to ensure your partner receives nothing in your divorce. Unfortunately, infidelity generally doesn’t impact asset division in a Kansas divorce. However, if you can prove that your partner used marital funds to pay for the affair, that can greatly impact your partner’s settlement in a negative way.

Why Hire a Divorce Lawyer?

Having the right divorce lawyer by your side throughout this process can make all the difference and make things far easier for you. Depending on the nature of the divorce, you may be unprepared and unsure of how to protect yourself. The legal team at Stange Law Firm can provide you with the resources you need. 

Our multi-state team has helped countless clients across the country with their divorces and estate plans. We can provide you with a compassionate and personalized approach, as well as consistent legal advice throughout your divorce.

Understanding the marriage and divorce rates in Kansas may encourage you to move forward with your own case. According to recent data gathered by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), Kansas has one of the lowest rates of divorce in the entire country at just 1.9 per 1,000 residents as of 2022. At the same time, the state has a fairly high marriage rate of 5.3 per 1,000 residents as of 2023, according to the Kansas Department of Health and Environment.

As you figure out your own path forward for your divorce, it’s okay to not be okay. Nobody expects you to get over infidelity and navigate a divorce without feeling some heartbreak. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help and wanting to talk to someone. You may want to consider reaching out to a local divorce support group like Surviving Divorce. Talking to the right people can be very helpful, especially if they have been through their own struggles.

Moving Past Infidelity

Moving past infidelity can be one of the hardest things you ever do for yourself. Healing may be vital to moving forward, and you are under no obligation to heal at anyone’s pace but your own. It’s possible you may never fully heal from it, and you may use it as a cautionary tale for the next time you allow yourself to be vulnerable with someone. Here are some possible tips on how you can try to move forward from infidelity:

  • One of the most effective and reliable ways to move past any kind of hurt, including infidelity, is to surround yourself with support. Take comfort in the people who care about you and want to see you succeed. You can never have too much support. Your friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, and even casual acquaintances may all want to help you move past this.
  • Make sure you communicate honestly. Part of your healing journey and your pursuit of closure may involve talking to your spouse one last time about everything you are feeling. You may not be able to move on without addressing what happened and how it made you feel. It’s up to you to choose how to handle things after learning of your partner’s infidelity.

FAQs

Q: Is It Possible for a Marriage to Survive Infidelity?

A: Yes, it may be possible for a marriage to survive infidelity. However, it depends entirely on the marriage, the individuals in that marriage, and how committed each partner is to fixing what’s broken. For some, infidelity is a hard line in the sand. If their partner crosses it, there may be no going back. For others, their partner’s unfaithfulness may be something that can be resolved in couples therapy or by communicating openly.

Q: Can Infidelity Affect a Divorce Settlement in Kansas?

A: Yes, infidelity can affect a divorce settlement in Kansas. While infidelity won’t directly affect asset division, it can impact other elements of the divorce. For example, if you can prove that your partner used marital funds to finance their affair, that can impact the amount of alimony you may have to pay them and could result in a property division settlement that favors you. If the affair negatively impacts your children’s well-being, it can affect custody arrangements too.

Q: Can a Prenuptial Agreement Protect My Assets if My Partner Is Unfaithful?

A: A prenup can protect your assets if your partner is unfaithful. However, this will only apply if you have an infidelity clause in the prenup that states your partner gives up all claims to marital assets if they ever cheat on you. If you have a prenup in place and your partner cheats on you, you should consult with a lawyer to learn the full extent of your prenup’s protection and what other options you may have at your disposal.

Q: Should I Hire a Divorce Lawyer?

A: Yes, you should hire a divorce lawyer. Divorces can be unpredictable enough without factoring in infidelity and the consequences of such actions. The last thing you want is to be unprepared when going up against a possibly vindictive spouse in a contentious divorce. A good lawyer can help prepare you for a lengthy court battle and ensure your assets are as protected as they can be.

Reach Out to a Lawyer Today

At Stange Law Firm, we can help you figure out a path forward following your partner’s infidelity. The most effective way forward may be to file for divorce and cut ties with someone you no longer trust. Our legal team can help you work through that. Contact us to speak with someone on our team about your options.