By Stange Law Firm, PC on Tuesday, January 12, 2016.
If you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse have decided to divorce, you are likely more than anything but indifferent towards the divorce process, and are likely anything but indifferent towards your spouse. Even the mere thought of your spouse creates a troublesome amount of emotions that may include: sadness, anger, frustration, guilt, and possibly longing. These feelings towards your spouse are completely understandable. But, it may benefit you to try to be indifferent towards your spouse during the divorce process.
You cannot afford to let your emotions drive your certain approach to either your divorce settlement or a fair custody arrangement for your child. For example, For example, if you are feeling guilty about some event or behavior that contributed to the dissolution of your marriage, you may be inclined to give your spouse more money and property than he or she is entitled to. This is problematic, as you almost certainly need to secure your fair share of marital assets in order to build a healthy future for yourself and for any children you may have.
It is very important to understand that indifference means either a lack of interest or concern. Being “indifferent” towards your spouse during the divorce process can be extremely beneficial. Do not be cruel, unfair, or uncaring towards your spouse. You do need to focus on your own needs and personal future as you and your attorney work to get the settlement. You may love or hate your spouse, but these feelings are not necessary as your move through your divorce negotiations.
In this specific and focused context, indifference may aid you in securing the divorce settlement you deserve. Instead of allowing any intense emotions related to your spouse to drive your divorce process, you can allow indifference to focus your energies on securing a healthy and grounded future for yourself and your child or children.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Why You Need to Strive for Indifference Toward Your Ex,” Shari Lifland, Sep. 22, 2015